🎶What would you think if I sang out of tune
Would you stand up and walk out on me?
Lend me your ears and I’ll sing you a song
And I’ll try not to sing out of key
Oh I get by with a little help from my friends
Mm I get high with a little help from my friends
Mm gonna try with a little help from my friends🎶
Originally sung by The Beatles but perhaps made most famous by Joe Cocker’s opening rendition for the Wonder Years (at least in my humble opinion); as soon as I hear the tune I immediately start to replay the footage of Kevin playing with Paul and Winnie Cooper. Throughout high school we all probably had those go to friendships for when our world just didn’t seem right. Why is that as grown adults, we shy away from sharing our problems with one another? Perhaps, we don’t want to burden others with our troubles; or we’re afraid of the judgement on our not so perfect life Truth be told, none of us are perfect (shocking revelation, I know)
1 Thessalonians 5:11 tells us, “Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.” In the fall of 2015, I was 6-7 months pregnant with Fox when I became friends with one of the sweetest ladies I have ever met. I immediately recognized a kindred spirit in her and she quickly became my go to for many topics. She loves freely with her whole heart and it was through such love I found myself strengthening my walk with Christ. Throughout the course of our friendship, she has always encouraged me and lifted me up. Throughout my pregnancy, I remember her telling me how much she viewed me as superwoman; I am naturally a worker and push myself to do as much as possible (maybe even too much). Her words helped me to realize how little credit I give myself.
As a society, I think we are quick to stress negatives. When correcting people, we generally say don’t do this or don’t do that rather than encouraging them to do it such and such way. I think if we build up our relationships with positive attributes, those relationships will be able bare the weight of one another’s problems. We all go through rough times, and it’s through these experiences which we learn from that we can help our friends.